My husband is not at all interested in sex with me and suggested sleeping in other rooms. Says he cannot get aroused without looking at ****. He quit trying with me 13 months ago and it was futile anyway. Just found he is taking Levitra, says it is to **********. I am not entirely certain that is true. He lied about having it then about taking it and then admitted yes he did. I found it. When asked why he never tried to me said no time. Well he has been on this for quite awhile could tell by the script etc. So in 9 months no time.
he always looks at the young women. We are retired. I have tried to remain my weight and people say I do not look my age but lets face it there comes a time unless it is plastic surgery etc. you are no longer that young chick. I accept his weight , balding etc but he takes one look at me and no interest. He tries to blame ED but I do not think that is all it is. He was like this before he got this medication.
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What a jerk… did he ever in the marriage seem interested in being your provider of physical pleasures? Or has he given up his role as your sex partner recently?
This is terrible, it’s horrible to suffer sexual rejection/neglect at any age.
I am so sorry to read about your situation. You have found the right place to see that you are not alone. From what I have read there are many of us in similar circumstances. My husband, too, was taking Viagra since before we were married 8 years ago and never told me or let me see it.
I understand the hurt and “what if” feelings that plague you.
I don’t want to fuel your suspicion unnecessarily, but there’s definitely something strange about the situation you described.
No I am suspicious since 3 years ago I discovered he was on dating sites and had even listed a profile. He couldn’t deny that one and said it was just a fantasy and wouldn’t do it again. LIE did do it and went on Yahoo again said he didn’t do it. I tried it and he had. It has gradually faded away and now 13 months later nadda. Told me not about sex but companionship, caring and concern at our age. Now if that is so why is he on those sites. Plus he can be so nice to me at times that it makes you question your sanity. But he will refulse to discuss or gets very angry.
you did not cause this. it is not your fault. you cannot control it . you cannot cure it. you can only choose your own actions. a job might give your self-esteem a boost. any job, even volunteer work raises a persons self-respect. good luck. your marriage may be dead , but you ain’t. anything you do for yourself will probably make your life better.
I agree… Tott you are a smart woman don’t let your husband question your sanity because men are good at that. They are good at making you believe that you are the problem when you are not. I agree with Hyman. Volunteering or finding a job outside will allow you to interact with people that will bring joy and happiness to your life which will boost your self-esteem. Don’t let him take that away from you. Don’t pay him any attention. When you give a man too much attention they take advantage and feel that they could change on you like the weather and it is ok when it is not. Go out and make yourself happy. He will notice a change and he will regret his behavior towards you. I know that everything is easier said than done cause I am in a situation where I have been lied to and manipulated. I am living and learning and trying to make changes.
I do art work and that has been a creative adventure that I now have time to pursue plus work with animal rescue groups. So I do have outlets. I guess for me is to learn to accept what I cannot change and change those I can. It has been helpful to hear I am not responsible entirely……..I always believe there are 2 sides to things or events that we cannot control other than our choices of our to respond. But I admit there is still anger and resentment and that I don’t like. I am sorry for all of you that are also hear. It is interesting that I had previously thought this was mainly an issue for me but finding more and more women in the same position. Guess I will remember the good ol days of some great great sex.